This is my first Insecure Writers Group post. On the first Wednesday of every month, writers talk about their doubts, struggles and triumphs. It's a safe haven for writers of all kinds.
The worst thing about being a writer is being rejected, right? Rejections sting, especially when it's something you've poured your heart and soul into.
Actually, I'm not so sure. A rejection at least allows you to move on, perhaps re-edit, then send your precious work elsewhere. It's another step along the path of finding the right home for your darling. No, worse for feeding into a writer's insecurity, I think, is being ignored. Being stuck in that limbo of waiting when you don't know if your work is ever going to be read and accepted or rejected.
In my experience, this is quite a common situation in the writing game. I've waited years for a response sometimes. Magazines, agents, publishers - some are fantastic at keeping you informed, responding to queries, letting you know what's going on. Others just aren't. Agents who are too busy to send an email if they're not interested in your manuscript (really? really really?) Magazines who take an age to consider a story or - just as bad - who hang on to it for years after an acceptance. You know the sort of thing.
Of course, we insecure writers live and learn. We learn where not to submit to again (believe me, I have a list). We maybe decide to indie publish and take control of our own destinies. And we learn where are the good places to send to (of which, as I say, there are many). Still, the situation is all-too common, and it really shouldn't be. Writing is hard enough without being ignored as well...
Sorry, slightly ranty first post. Do you agree? Or am I just being insecure?